nice guys finish last

hello world, back again!

you know i have always heard the saying nice guys finish last. and for me personally i never thought it was quite true because i've always wanted the nice guy. However, i have noticed that the nive guys do tend to get overlooked first. But just like the nice guys finish last so do the nice girls. you would think nice girls don't but suprisingly they do. And what is funny is after these niggas have slept with more than enough women to count they go looking for the nice girls. but the first pick is not the nice ones no they want the slutty freaky maybe no standard women first.

a shame right???

hmm...something to know

hello world back again!

so i was on this popular blog site that i sometimes frequent and i came across this post written by a guy on relationships. This was interesting to me because i hardly ever hear a guy talking about relationships unless it has some sort of focus on sex. Suprisingly enough, well at least to me, it had some validity to it. Most of it i had already know before and there was some things i agteed with and some things i didn't. So i more so did this so that if i wanted to show or tell someone or recall some of the points he made as male i wouldn't have to go find but just go to one of my post. Here it is courtesy of necolebitchie. com.........

Necole Bitchie.com: Livin’ the Bitchie Life….: "“The real problem with women in relationships is that they are doing marital acts with their man and they are not married. Examples of Marital Acts:
*Keys to the apartment
*Laying up under each other for hours at a time
*Putting things in each other’s name and you are not married (Cars, Cell phones, etc)
*Sex without a condom
*You call him your hubby or wife. (Bad words for a relationship is MY Wifey, MY Boo, MY anything. If you are not married to it, it’s not yours…)
*You are playing house. (i.e. Cleaning up their house, cooking etc...)
*Moving in or shacking up. (Why would you move in with someone without getting married? Don’t assume that just because you will move in with this dude, he’ll eventually marry you. )
*When you do these type of marital acts, you are giving a person the opportunity to use you up. They are getting the most out of you already so “why would they marry you?”."

Like i said i agree with most of it but what if you have no aspirations or desire to get married then does this still apply? And the point about saying my boo or wifey or my anything is not true if your not married because its not yours, which is true for the wifey term. But just you are not married doesnt mean that you and someone are not committed and therefore my boo or my man/woman is acceptable because before you even get to the point of marriage there should be some commitment before that if you are in a relationship.

and nothing even matters at all...

love is important to most, everything to some, and feared to few.

but sometimes love is as great as everyone says it is and sometimes it can be the worst feeling in the world. just like the movie there is a thin line between love and hate. you can love someone and everything they have to offer one moment and hate the very things that make them who they are the next, love is confusing, hella emotional, scary....blah blah blah....i could go on and on. now on the other hand people say that with all the problems that come along with love it is still better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. but i ask myself is this true? you know, is ignorance really bliss??? ......i think it actually might be, not quite sure.

but what i wanna know is what is the phase before love? it it genuine like? like when you are really getting to know someone, truly like the person they are, enjoy spending time with them, thinking of them constantly? we all know that before you even get to love there must be chemistry or else it wouldn't even progress forward. but what about infatuation, when you're completely consumed...not obsessed but consumed? they are sexy, sweet, thoughtful, and everything else you think they are....you see what you want. but what happens when infatuation wears off?

what really sucks is when someone can't see or simply doesn't care that you genuinely like them. like the person they are. what they do. so on and so forth. and what's really sad is one day that person will wish they cared...and you'll be long gone

"and nothing even matters at all"